My BPD and My Work | ultamb76's Blog

I have known for a long time that I am a highly polarized person, either you like me or you don't. There always seems to be those one or two people that I just do not mesh well with in the workplace.

Well, this one woman in particular has been getting under my skin for over a year now. My first experience that I can remember with her was when I was about two months into the job when I overheard her talking about me, she called me an umpaloompa. Yes, I am vertically challenged and I can laugh about myself and such things, but when someone says it that I already cannot stand and I am not friends with then I will say something and I did. This woman dishes and dishes out smart ass comments but she absolutely cannot take it if someone says something back. She perceives me, as she said one day when
we hashed out an issue
in the breakroom, as having something up my butt. Well, I perceive her to be somewhat of a self-righteous bully. She will go on and on about something someone else did wrong but then be in complete denial and not accept responsibility when she makes a mistake. I have actually made her out as a fool a couple times while solving a problem on my own in a way that never occured to her. I get along with almost everyone else at work. A few years ago, I was fired from a job after reporting a woman's behavior to HR. She was bullying, or harassing me in a sense, I feel because she was jealous that I was the GM's assistant, I was close to the GM
and likely made more
money than the bully
woman. Because I had
asserted myself and
said I wouldn't allow
the bad treatment eventually I became the bad guy for not just taking the harassment and the GM went to what I call the dark side. Lol! I actually talked with lawyers and because it was generalized harassment and I could not say it was due to my sex or because of some disability then I didn't have a clear cut harassment claim. If it had been a clear cut kind of harassment then I could have sued the employer for wrongful, or retaliatory termination because I had reported. I didn't want money from a lawsuit though, I simply wanted my job back and to work in a non-hostile environment. I actually ended up going to the EEOC and got awarded some hush hush money and they ended up unblocking my employment because initially they tried to block my unemployment compensation. The employer claimed that I had willfully misconducted myself! It was a lie and I went to mediation with the VP of human resources of a large national company. Always fight for your rights, most employers play dirty. It took me a long time to get over the loss of that job because aside from the large woman calling me a little fat lazy ass-mind you I am heafty but definitely was not as large as her- I liked almost all aspects of my job. It turns out that the bully woman had ran out four assistants, none of us were there much longer than a year. The others were just smart enough to get other jobs and not stay and stand their ground to try to improve the situation. What I have learned from my and many others experiences is that most antiharassment policies are meaningless words, wasted ink on wasted paper. The people that report such issues usually get canned. I know these issues I have have a lot to do with my disorder and my unwillingness to be disrespected in the workplace. I supposed I have not evolved above it yet and I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. Do any of the rest of you struggle this way? Please tell me about it.